Life After Divorce

Whether you initiated your divorce or not, life after divorce can be a bit daunting, particularly if you have been married for a long time. It could be possible that you cannot envision a life not as a couple much less living alone. Whether you remain in the marital home or find a new one to start fresh there are positives and negatives to life after divorce. As devastating as a divorce can be, it is also time to reinvent yourself. Here are eight tips for reinventing yourself from WebMD.

  1. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship. You went into the marriage thinking, “happily ever after,” but now you have come to the realization that that is no longer a possibility. It is okay to feel sad about the loss of a relationship even if the divorce is something you wanted, it still represents a loss.  You may feel remorse for what was done or not done in the failed relationship. Experts suggest not dwelling on those feelings, but making room for them.
  2. Seek the advice of a professional to work through your emotions, just as you seek our professional legal advice. It is common to ignore your feelings especially if you have children involved, because you may feel as if you need to “stay strong” and not show how your feelings of pain and anguish. You may also want to seek a professional to help your children cope with their new life.
  3. It is important to “learn to like yourself.” It is not uncommon for a spouse to feel as if he or she has something wrong with them. Do something just for you to make you feel good about yourself.
  4. Rediscover yourself. Maybe your time has been occupied doing things, as a couple or raising children, now is your time to rediscover things you used to love doing. Did you have a favorite hobby, but let it go due to other responsibilities related to your marriage? Now is the time to pick that back up or learn a new skill, take up running or something else you have been putting off.
  5. Shake things up by getting a new haircut or going back to college. Of course, you may have some considerations for major decisions like kids, a job and budgeting concerns. Make sure the changes you make are healthy, construction and appropriate. “Look for changes you can say yes to, instead of dwelling on what’s out of reach.”
  6. Being alone can feel daunting, but embrace it. Being solo is not about being isolated and not interacting with others, it is about feeling confident in yourself. Remember, there are more than 30 million people living along in the United States. Take this opportunity to explore different groups of friends that enjoy doing things you like such as a running group or a book club, whatever gets you out and about to meet people with the same interests as you.
  7. Consider dating again once you feel ready. As your attorney, we always suggest keeping your divorce and child custody agreement in mind. Most co-parenting arrangements address overnight stays and children being present. When in doubt, consult your agreement or call our office to discuss.
  8. Embrace your newfound roles that you may not have been a part of in the marriage. If your partner always took care of the weekly menu and grocery shopping, embrace your new role as “head chef” in the house and take a cooking class or two to learn how to prepare something new.

Kevin Hickey Law Partners always suggests to our clients to remember that you are not alone and don’t feel as if you have to take on your new life perfectly. We are always here to help you with any legal matters that may arise. Our expertise and experience can help you navigate important decisions. Let us help you take a little of the burden off by allowing us to think of future situations that may arise from the divorce. Call today for a consultation to begin your new life.

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