A gatekeeper, simply put, is a person who decides who’s in and who’s out. While traditionally, gatekeepers were used to protect city limits, today, they’re the sometimes self-appointed person who acts as the guard – or the gate – of cultural and social groups, jobs and careers, and sometimes, even people and children.
A “gatekeeper parent” is a term usually used in a legal setting. Still, families can use it casually to describe how one parent might be “gatekeeping” their children from the other parent.
But contrary to popular belief, sometimes parents can conduct gatekeeping positively — it just depends on the actions and intent, according to the Family Court Review.
Here are two examples of a gatekeeping parent:
Can you tell which one has negative and which one has positive effects and intentions? Unfortunately, since parental gatekeeping is so complex and the situation may feed many reasons behind it, it’s not a catch-all term to describe issues like parental alienation.
Whether you suspect your ex-spouse is a gatekeeper or you may be displaying traits of one, it’s good to know the most prominent characteristics of parental gatekeeping, so you can spot it before it progresses into a bad situation:
Remember that sometimes, parental gatekeeping is in the child’s best interest – but it can be hard to identify, which is why many people in the family law community wonder whether or not gatekeeping is a type of parental alienation.
There are ways that parental gatekeeping and alienation overlap: In many instances, one parent will undermine or speak badly about the other parent and not treat them as an equal in the co-parenting relationship.
However, there still needs to be studies that state whether or not gatekeeping is different from alienation.
The American Psychological Association (APA) does not consider either a diagnosable syndrome; instead, gatekeeping and alienation are terms used within the court of law to describe the relationship between parent and child.
In negative cases, gatekeeping is viewed as a more complex and severe version of alienation, while other family law experts argue it’s a symptom of alienation.
In short, gatekeeping can be a form of parental alienation, but legally and psychologically speaking, it’s generally determined on a case-by-case basis.
Divorce becomes a thousand times harder when children are involved. Even if you and your ex-partner are doing your best to co-parent and work together, sometimes unresolved feelings can surface and affect how the parent-child relationship develops.
Whether you’re going through a divorce or reassessing child custody and parent-time orders, you need an experienced family law attorney team to ensure no stone is left unturned. With decades of experience specializing in parental alienation, Hickey & Hull Law Partners can help you today.
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