I thought of this subject because of all the parent-teacher conferences happening over the past week. Typically, we write a blog about the end of the school year and the beginning of the fall semester, but what about the end of the third quarter? This is a prime opportunity to keep building into the relationship you have with the school and teacher, as well as check on how your child is coping with divorce and life after. Let’s just look at what parents in different households need to keep in mind for co parenting during the early spring.
Hopefully, both parents attended the conference or can attend the upcoming conference. If you couldn’t, be sure to ask the other parent and if there’s too much tension, teachers are willing to email or meet and discuss what you, as a parent, need to know concerning your child’s academics and behavior. If your child is struggling in any area, parents can brainstorm and implement a battle plan. If it’s academics, there’s plenty of time to structure extra studying and tutoring; if it’s behavioral, discussions can take place and checkpoints established with the teacher. Many teachers can recommend testing to take place if it becomes obvious something is hindering you child’s progress in the classroom. Maybe you child has a processing disorder, or maybe it’s just trying to handle change. There are ways to make sure so you, and the school, can provide what is needed for you child to be secure and succeed.
The other big issue in spring for co parenting is reviewing the custody agreement, along with visitation, and deciding on spring break activities. Some parents follow standard policy, but it can be better if the week is shared and you can work together or find an arrangement where you don’t have to bounce from year to year. Some parents work during the break and they arrange for the other parent to provide childcare during their working hours. If you can avoid conflict, find a way to share the time.
Keep in mind that during these next few months you can be in contact about your children’s extracurricular and academic calendar. Find a way to communicate and build your parenting relationship in the best way you can for your family dynamic. Evaluate all the angles to ensure your child is healthy and happy, even after a divorce.