We often only read or hear about the devastation and trouble divorce causes. In this blog we discuss matters surrounding divorce in order to equip you with knowledge because knowledge is power, but what if we stopped for a minute and talked about the good that can arise from a new start? That’s what a divorce can be -- a new beginning.
People marry young, and that is a beautiful, hopeful part of the human experience. Young marriages often end, even 20 years later, because people change. We should change. We should grow and expand. The challenge in marriage is that through the growth, through the change, we should stay connected to our partner. Too often, this does not happen, and the rift is so wide that a bridge across is difficult to even conceive, let alone build.
What happens next is usually divorce. But divorce has the power to challenge the facade we have built around ourselves. Perhaps the relationship fell apart because it was never based on reality. Many times, as people begin to discuss their divorce, it comes down to something about identity. Sometimes it is a loss of identity. Sometimes it is discovering identity. When we divorce, we can find in ourselves a deeper, more authentic version of ourselves. The power of seeking through the brokenness or wandering through the shock until we bump into it, is that we find a more authentic piece of ourselves.
Too often we build relationships around broken pieces or incomplete ones. Divorce can keep us in this cycle, or it can free us from it. After divorce, people can feel lost, confused, hurt and alone. An individual can begin to find their way out of this by discovering who they are, what they dream, what they want, and, in this way, begin to live their best life.
This blog is not to try to dupe you into some sort of fantasy that divorce isn’t painful, but to offer some hope. You may feel like you have nothing left of your former self. You do. The remnants are there, and they will help you find your new beginning. Remember, it’s about to get better. We’re here to help.